There Are No Words

First, let me begin this post by reassuring family and friends that my baby is absolutely fine. He’s big and healthy and kicking away as I type this. In as little as 6 weeks, I’ll get to meet this little man but I wanted to take a moment to recognize that not everyone is so lucky.

In October 1988, President Ronald Reagan declared October National Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month saying, “When a child loses his parent, they are called an orphan. When a spouse loses her or his partner, they are called a widow or widower. When parents lose their child, there isn’t a word to describe them.” 

This week, a friend of mine shared some sad news with me. The loss of a child- whether just a couple weeks in utero or a grown adult- is an unbearable loss. There are no words I can offer. Nothing I can say. Even the status of my own pumpkin-sized midsection in his vicinity strikes me with guilt now. I know he’s sincerely happy for me, but how could it not haunt him?

I don’t mean to diminish anyone’s current pregnancy joy or throw anyone’s painful memory to the forefront but my blog is a place for me to share and this news rocked me to my core this week. So my heart goes out to my friend and to anyone struggling with this sort of grief- as I’m sure it’s a life-long struggle- I wish nothing but peace and joy for you and your families.

For more information on National Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month, please visit


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Welcome to the World Baby Shower

I’m so excited to share my beautiful baby shower with you! I feel so lucky to have such wonderful friends and family around me that truly did “shower” us with the cutest gifts for our baby boy. A big special thanks goes to my mum though who happens to throw the best parties and really went above and beyond to make all my pinterest plans come true!

Our shower was themed “Welcome to the World” and dotted with vintage maps, globes, and tiny suitcases.

Eli Shower

A suitcase full of favors…


Those are tea tins and infusers with “A Baby is Brewing” labels.

Favors 3

The food was set up inside but the party took place in my Mum & Dad’s yard under a lovely white tent surrounded by their magnolia tree. It was a gorgeous late summer day. Perfect for sipping lemonade and non-alcoholic sangria. Don’t worry, there was plenty of wine on hand for those not currently with child.


Cheese 2

Lunch 2

We chose three baby games with some surprising winners! My cousin Isabel guessed within 100 M&Ms of what was in this over-sized baby bottle. And I was shocked that it wasn’t the new mommies but my college-age cousin who ran away with the Price Is Right game. Who knew Aveeno Baby products were so darned expensive but a package of organic baby wipes barely cracked $5?

Games 2

And leave it to my girls- cousin Maria and Made of Honor Jamie to guess the circumference of my bump almost perfectly! Here I am measuring their piece of yarn guess during our B is for Belly game.


And oh the gifts! I know this part can drag on at showers but everything was so freakin’ cute I hope we kept the guests entertained.


There was plenty of oohing and aahing but this homemade quilt from my cousin Maria brought me to happy tears! It’s so beautiful and special. I know our little man will be crawling and cooing all over this! Thank you Maria!

Quilt from Maria

Nephew Zeke really helped Auntie and Uncle out with the tough bows. He’s going to be a fantastic big cousin!

Zeke Helping

And in the end, it was all about the cupcakes… er… the people!


The people were my favorite part… honest… with cupcakes a close second. Thanks again ladies!


Bumpdate | 30 Weeks


HOW FAR ALONG: 30 weeks – totally in the third trimester!

BABY SIZE: 17 inches tall and weighing about 3.5 pounds – for those who miss the fruit and veggie comparisons – he’s the size of a cantaloupe this week.



WHAT TO WEAR: Living in Old Navy Maternity. They even have maternity skinny jeans which I think is a hilarious oxymoron but at least I can wear my boots again!


BELLY BUTTON: Waiting on that snooze button to pop.

WEDDING RINGS: On but getting snug!

SLEEP: I wish I could write poetry and love songs to communicate how much I adore sleep. Funny how I’m getting used to waking every couple hours to pee or flip to the other side like a burger on the grill. I guess this is nature’s way of preparing me for even more frequent wakings?

MOVEMENT: Stopped me mid-sentence the other day with a kick. The big ones definitely get my attention and the tiny ones still make me giggle. I just picture him shadow boxing in there!

MISSING: Bending over was nice. I miss bending over. You don’t realize how much it comes in handy until you can’t do it. Forget socks, pedicures, and lord knows if I drop something there better be someone around to get it or I’ll sure-as-shit never see it again.

CRAVINGS: Anything pumpkin but that’s just par for the course with me once fall comes around.

SYMPTOMS: I was diagnosed with Anemia last week. No surprise given how tired I’ve been but the news hit me with my first pangs of mommy guilt. Though anemia is common in pregnant women, my vegetarianism probably didn’t help the matter and for that choice I feel guilty. If my midwife told me to down a 16 ounce rib eye in order to help the baby, believe me I would despite an 18-year streak without red meat. But thankfully, she instructed 2 iron pills daily and I’ve been upping the spinach and broccoli intake just in case.

HUSBAND: Still the best ever. I got a calf massage the other day that was just. to. die!

FAVORITE MOMENT THIS WEEK: Laying on the couch with Jared, calling out to our little guy, and watching him respond with a hardy kick after kick! Might have just been impeccable timing but I like to think he was saying hi back!

Nursery Reveal

Our little man finally has a beautiful room to call his own. And we (finally!) after one year of living in our house with that bedroom door closed, have a bright beautiful room to light up our second floor hallway!


The room is just as how I imagined it.




The neutral tones are so calming and sweet. Did you notice the faux brick on the back wall? It’s one of my favorite parts to the room. Such a big impact for such a small amount of effort. This is simply brick paneling from Lowes painted white. I love it!


Then there’s all the woodland touches. I couldn’t be happier with the collage over the dresser.


Remember the wood slice wall art I made?


We filled this little lamp with river rocks and couldn’t resist leaving these little knit booties on display!


The bunny mobile over the crib is so delicate and whimsical, it’s like a piece of art.


His little library is starting to take shape. These woodland board books are beautiful. I hope the little guy likes them as much as momma does.


And this adorable fox from our nephew Zeke watches over the nursery.


Little man is sure to be a stylish gentleman with an organized closet like this!


Completing this room is a huge step toward welcoming our little kiddo into our home. If only he knew what it once looked like!

Before After

Growing Old is Mandatory but Growing Up is Optional

Today I turn 31 and this year is bound to bring about the most drastic change in my life thus far and maybe for ever more. One could argue that turning 30 with a new house in a new town as a newlywed and taking on a new job was a pretty big year too- but I think parenthood trumps all.

It really does feel like a point of no return. This little man is about to steal a huge chunk of my heart, and time, and money, and youth, and energy- but would I have it any other way? No-sir-ee-bob.

There was never any question for me that I’d become a mother. I consider everything up to this point to have been preparation for The Motherhood. A long orientation teaching patience, courage, generosity, humility, and love strengthening me for the hardest, longest, and best job I’ll ever accept.

While I’m acutely aware of how hard it will be, I’m more struck by how honored I feel to be able to be a part of this exclusive club. It seems as though my generation is having more trouble than ever conceiving and I wouldn’t wish that on my worst enemy. Every day I walk around with a miracle inside me and though I make jokes about hellish heartburn or big boobs, there’s not a day that goes by that I don’t thank the universe for our healthy baby boy.

It’s also taken me until now to realize just how special birthdays are for parents. After all, all I did 31 years ago today was pop out and start breathing air. It was arguably a much more memorable day for my parents! I feel like when it’s someone’s birthday, we should really start sending a “Happy Birthday” card to the birthday boy/girl and a “Mozel Tov” card to their parents!

So thanks Mum & Dad for heading to the hospital 31 years ago and you know, all that stuff you’ve done since then.

If growing old is mandatory but growing up is optional, I’m feeling pretty good about turning 31. Having a baby is bound to make me feel old but it’s easy to stay young at heart having kids around. So happy birthday to me and to my little man, I can’t wait to have an even more important birth day this December.


Week in Review | September 8-12

Helloooo? Anyone here?

Yeah, I’ve been neglecting you dear blog but… whatever, get over it! I’m pregnant! I have a million things to take care of before this little bundle comes bouncing into our lives. One big check mark off the list was my Baby Shower this past weekend. My Mum threw me the most beautiful ‘Welcome to the World’ shower complete with vintage maps, white linens, and my favorite Konditor Meister cupcakes!

It was the most beautiful day filled with wonderful people and the cutest gifts for the baby boy! There will be plenty of Baby Shower photos in the coming weeks as well as the big nursery reveal! So you just sit tight. I’ll be over here you know, just growing a human. No big deal.




My Summer According to Instagram

It sure still feels like summer here in Boston. Holy heatwave Batman! But before we say goodbye to the summer of 2014, I thought I’d take a look back at my summer according to Instagram. And by the way- you can follow me on Instagram here.


These are just a few of my memories of the summer but I have a feeling I won’t soon forget the last summer BC (before children). It all started with that first bumpdate pic. Why do women not know they’re skinny until they are bigger? Look at tiny little me and mini! Our trip to Florida meant we got to say hello to our new niece Sophia. But then June had us saying goodbye to another family member. Jared and I became godparents for the first time in July and Sophia got her first taste of Boston on a Duck Tour. I was counting down the days until that peaceful week on White Pond in August. Lots of lounging on the lake with the cousins… and eating, lots of eating! And that brings us to Labor Day weekend on the Cape with this cool dude of a nephew. Zeke and I passed on the seafood but the rest of the family seemed to enjoy it. That final bump on the beach pic shows just how much we’ve grown this summer… quite literally.

Hope your summer was just as memorable! Imagine what next summer will bring!

Week in Review | August 25-29

How was your week? Mine flew by in a haze of hormones. A particularly busy week at work paired with the end of our birthing class and a million minor annoyances had me wanting to burst into tears at any moment. In fact, the restroom at work has echoed with my pregnant sniffles more times than I care to admit this week.

Trust me, the rational side of my brain is delighted with all of the joys and blessings that I am currently experiencing and will experience in the coming year. It’s just the irrational pregnant side of my brain that turns a stolen parking spot at the grocery store by a skinny bitch in a Mercedes into “why does the universe hate me?!” It’s all pretty comical looking back, really.

Although I am feeling legitimate sadness over the end of our birthing class at MIT. Since day one of the class, I felt a strong connection to all of the women and our doula instructor. It was wonderful to share the experience with Jared and for him to hear other Dad’s stories in the class. Every Wednesday night I felt a true and sincere acceptance, empathy, and overwhelming sense of being nurtured and taken care of. I would go from just another pregnant person in the sea of procreation to being praised for enduring the incessant symptoms and celebrated for taking care of my body the best I knew how and the little body cooking within.

Although many of the couples in the class are MIT graduate students moving on to great academic and professional adventures around the world, there were a few fellow MIT employees in the class- two of whom live in Winthrop! I love that we were able to connect with this couple and will be able to share pregnancy stories, baby stories, and drop our kids off at the same school one day.

So needless to say, I was a distracted mess this week and did not delight in my favorite blogs. Instead of a blogosphere week in review, I hope you enjoyed my hormonal week in review above. Happy Labor Day weekend- which by the way, takes on a whole new meaning when you’re preparing to give birth.

CS Lewis Quote

Week in Review | August 18-22

Happy Friday! What will you be doing this weekend? Relishing in the final days of Summer at the beach? Or considering this cool week our first peek at Fall and baking up some apple crisp? You know I can’t wait for Fall! Bring on the pumpkins! It doesn’t get any better than this! Fall always makes me feel lucky to live in New England. And perhaps it’s the smell of school supplies in the aisles of Target or my September birthday that always makes me feel like new beginnings rather than the near year-end.

Either way, I promise not to jump right into the pumpkin-filled Week in Reviews. I’ll do my best to hold out until after Labor Day… but it won’t be easy!

Here’s a look at what happened this week in the blogsphere- pumpkins excluded.

Week in Review

  1. Life on Virginia Street recapped some fabulous posts from around the web. This minty desk makeover definitely caught my eye! Isn’t it darling?
  2. The gals at the Glitter Guide are saying so long to Summer with a Rose’ Garden Party. Oh wine, how I miss thee…
  3. Brittany Makes made her own CB2-style woven wrap bench this week. What a great DIY!
  4. Dana at House Tweaking tweaked an unused room to create this lovely nursery for her little one. Mixing quality wooden toys and natural elements with IKEA and Target finds- a woman after my own heart!
  5. Before the summer blooms fade, Cottage and Vine foraged some beautiful blossoms and assembled this wildly wonderful centerpiece. Check out her step by step instructions here.

Bumpdate | 23 Weeks


HOW FAR ALONG: 23 weeks

BABY SIZE: Fruit and vegetable comparisons have been really odd lately. Like a carrot or bok choy could be a lot of different sizes! This week they’re saying he’s as big as a bunch of grapes. Again, very misleading so for you technical types- he’s 1.25 lbs and over a foot tall.


WEIGHT GAIN: 16 lbs – hit a milestone on the scale. I’ve never in my life weighed this much and I’ve never been more excited to put on the pounds! Just means the little man’s growing!

WHAT TO WEAR: Almost exclusively maternity clothes at this point. And my bra size could make a porn star blush.

STRETCH MARKS: Um, yeah. Yeah, they’re there.

BELLY BUTTON: Interesting…


SLEEP: Still loving every minute of sleep although exclusively side sleeping takes a toll on my hips even with the ridiculous pillow formations perched between my knees or behind my back.

MOVEMENT: Tons! He definitely makes his presence known whether flipping around and around or with his tiny kicks that get more powerful by the day.

MISSING: Never thought I’d say it but… renovating! Our nursery revamp is well underway thanks to Jared and my Dad but some nights I’d just love to be able to just grab a paint brush and take matters into my own hands!

CRAVINGS: Still loving fruit every day and lots of water. Lately I’ve had one odd craving for gummy things- starbursts, sour gummies, fruit chews. I try to not indulge too much because of all the sugar but man! Sometimes Momma needs a Blue Razmatazz Sour Straw in the worst way! Seriously salivating just thinking about it!

SYMPTOMS: Not much. Feeling pretty good lately! Though large. Good but large.

HUSBAND: The best ever. In one night alone the man had to run back to the Mexican restaurant because I burst into tears when my vegetarian enchilada had meat in it and then he had to console me as I sobbed uncontrollably over the death of a fictional character on a TV show. Yeah, he’s a good egg.

FAVORITE MOMENT THIS WEEK: Our vacation at the lake was pretty fabulous and I loved spending hours in the sun rubbing and watching my belly. But I’d have to say seeing Jared feel our baby kick for the first time was pretty thrilling. He gave him a good couple whacks to say, “hey hello there Dad!”